Dating more than one woman at a time
We did have a nice time that evening and then proceeded to never speak to each other again.
Failure became a part of dating, neither good nor bad; just a part that has to be accepted. Better First Impressions This was a direct result of having less stress.
Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.
It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.
Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.
When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.
I stopped defending the poor qualities my dates had and started moving on.
Using my original method for dating (one girl a month at best), my odds of meeting that special someone were very low and theoretically it would have taken a long time to meet her. The issue here is the length of time only identifies part of the problem as it assumes that the “match” won’t move on to something else: a new job that she wouldn’t have been taken had she been in a relationship, settling for someone just to not be alone, etc.
Taking too long doesn’t just mean you’re looking longer. I believe that dating many people improves your chances in two ways: you have a better chance of meeting someone who you are looking for but you also potentially avoid missing out on someone who may move on if you never get around to meeting in the first place.
I still wasn’t the most confident guy (for example, I still wasn’t randomly asking girls out in public) but I was becoming very comfortable on dates, which gave the appearance of confidence. Less Stress With dating multiple women, there was always another first date on the horizon. I lost my hell-bent desire to make every date go perfectly.
When the stress lessened, I stopped paying attention to myself and started paying attention to my date.